Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Love conquers all. Or so they say. Love goes beyond all boundaries and for love you leave your family and friends. For love you sacrifice everything even your own life.How true is this sentiment? In today’s world, with self gratification being on the top of the list, is there place for love to survive.? I believe there is. I believe if love is strong, it can move mountains. If love is strong, it can move an ocean.

A true life event inspired this post. Not mine but of someone I know.

She comes from a rich family. She had everything she ever wanted. She’s the pampered one in the family simply because she is the only girl. Then she fell in love. She fell in love with someone whom her father did not approve. However, she continued seeing this guy as her mother still gave her approval although it was behind her father’s back.

Her boyfriend made it to a good working position and soon impressed her father and somehow they managed to get his blessing. All went fine until the boyfriend made one stupid mistake that ended his career and put his life in shambles. She remained loyal to him and kept the whole thing a secret from her family. Her father found out and demanded that she ended the relationship. She blatantly refused. Her father asked her to choose, her boyfriend or her family. She chose her love and left her family after being disowned.

Despite all the chaos and uncertainties, they got married. More problems followed because of financial matters. After three years, she swallowed her pride and called her father for assistance. Her father was pleased. He told her that she could have everything. A house, a car, even money with one condition. Leave him. Leave her husband. She cried and hanged up after saying no.

Such is love. Such is sacrifice. Would you have been strong enough? Would your love withstand all odds and remain steadfast?

I pray for her. I pray for all couples in love.

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Saturday, April 26, 2008

Sometimes overly sensitive people bugged me. Sometimes overly sensitive people irritates the hell out of me. Sometimes overly sensitive people irks me so much, I just want to give them one tight slap and say.. not everything is about you! 

People need to realize that I need to speak my mind and yes, gossip about other people too sometimes and if it somehow relates to you then it’s nothing personal. You are just there at the wrong time and place.

For example, if I say X is so pretty but so sad she got bad BO, and you happened to have bad BO too, please don’t take it personally, coz I’m not talking about you and for heavens sake, do something about it if you do have bad BO! And if I say, I really need to get a new handphone coz mine is zongint out on me, I’m not talking about YOUR phone that you are tying together with a rubber band, I’m talking about mine!

For heaven’s sake don’t make everything about YOU! Stop being overly sensitive will ya??!!!


Just being me…

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Wednesday, April 23, 2008

I’m sure many of us have faced this situation on least one occasion. Be it our choice or the other party, breaking up is never easy. At times, we are just afraid of being alone that we would rather stay in a disastrous relationship and suffer silently.

My first breakup was torture. I was no longer in love with the guy but he insisted that he still loved me and was committed to making the relationship work. I was miserable and I was making him miserable. We fought all the time and every conversation and discussion was an excuse for more arguments. I was already letting go and deep down I knew the relationship was doomed but he still refused to let go. He refused to acknowledge that I no longer loved him and that I was ready to move on without him in my life.

Finally I convinced him to let me go. I told him that I was merely a season for him. A season to experience, a season to learn and a season to love. Now that season is over, and a new season is dawning…for him and for me..

Breaking up is never easy but we finally said our goodbyes and moved on with our lives. I hope he learnt from what we have shared before and moved on to find a better love just like I did smile


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Tuesday, April 22, 2008

A simple yet touching story that brought tears to my eyes while reading it. We tend to take our our loved ones and relationships for granted. Sometimes time pass by too fast that before you know it another day, another week, another month and another year had gone by. You can’t get back those times but you can make a difference going forward.

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out for dinner and a movie. She said I love you but I know this other woman also loves you and would love to spend some time with you.

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

“What’s wrong, are you well,” she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

“I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.”

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s.

My mother said,”I told my friends that I was going out with my son, and they were impressed” as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting”. We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

“It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said.

“Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I did to not get to do anything for her.

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU!” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments that take our breath away!”


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Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Past relationship shaped the way I am today. What I have gone through before, greater determine how present and future relationship are formed. 

For instance in a love relationship, I know that just because someone loves me is not enough to start one. The feelings must be mutual. Sometimes I get carried away with all the wooing that I “trick” myself into thinking that I love that person as well. It’s not fair to him and it is definitely stupid of me coz I know that relationship won’t last, as I need to give as much as I take and I won’t be able to give 100% of myself if I don’t love that person.

Past relationship also taught me that I can’t be with someone too possessive or too jealous. I am, by nature, a people person. I love people. I love my human interaction. I love events, parties, get-together and meeting new people. My significant other got to accept that…period.

Past relationship. What have you learned about yourself??


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Sunday, April 13, 2008

While going through my personal boxes today, I found certain items from school that really brought back fond school memories. I found my Courtesy Badge that I received as one of the Courteous Student in our Courtesy Campaign back when I was in primary three. Can you believe I had to wear that for one month! lolz!! I also found my secondary school and junior college badges. 

keepsake from schoolCourtesy Badge, secondary and jc badges,
jc tie pin and librarian badge

Isn’t it cool? I have left school for more than 30 years now and still just by looking at these items, so many memories come flooding in.. both good and bad redface!!

Check out the picture below.. can you guess which one is yours truly??! heheh.. no prize for winners though razz


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Wednesday, April 9, 2008

OMG! This test got it spot on!

I’ve always wanted to go to Paris, to live in Paris and learn French! and probably date a French Man (don’t take offence ya Azwja!!) And now this test is telling me I actually belong in Paris!!!

You Belong in Paris

Stylish and expressive, you were meant for Paris.

The art, the fashion, the wine!

Whether you’re enjoying the cafe life or a beautiful park…

You’ll love living in the most chic place on earth.

OMG!!! :ahaha:

Posted by LadyJava On April 09, 2008 No comments READ FULL POST

Sunday, April 6, 2008

GP and RoxiticusDH, both tagged me with the True Love tag and since just like GP, I also recently celebrated my eighth wedding anniversary, I am also gonna bump off my long list of other outstanding tags and do this one immediately 🙂

The Rules : Copy the questions and answer them honestly.

1. What does true love mean to you?
Means my life feels empty and incomplete without him. Means I love the way he makes me feel. Means I lay my life out for him.

2. How do you know you’re really in love?
When all I can think about is him. When all I want to do is be with him. When I put his interest and well-being before my own and when even if I am angry, I forgive even without him saying he’s sorry and all I want to do is make up and make everything alright again.

3. How many times in your life have you fallen in love?
I loved twice before but IN love with only one and that is with my Azwaj.

4. Have you ever fallen out of true love because you were mad at the moment?

5. Do you feel love and physical attraction are the same thing?
Definitely not.. you can be in lust with someone but not necessarily in love.

6. If your true love became ill or disfigured would you continue to love them the same way?
Nothing will ever change the way I feel for my one true love.

7. Should anyone else be able to tell you who to love or not love?
Never happened to me before but I think I would listen but just like GP, I will ultimately decide what is best for me.

8. Do you believe people that ended up divorced were ever truly in love?
Yes, once upon a time… but the same way you can fall in love, you can also fall out of love due to lots of reasons.

9. Would you give up something you want for someone you love?
Without a doubt, I will.

10. If you truly love someone do you feel it should be unconditional?
Most definitely… body, heart and soul without borders and conditions!

Oh and if you want to know how much true love means to my Azwaj… it’s here and here

Now would you please share with us your true love sentiments, Noushy, Nat, Farah and Shemah


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Saturday, April 5, 2008

I found this tip somewhere on the internet and thought I’d share it with you.

How to resolve argument with your spouse quickly…

A Preacher told us that when a couple is arguing they should just strip down and argue in the nude. It helps them to remember why they are together and after the arguing is over, it will give them something to talk about later. 

I suggested this to Azwaj and he’s game and if it worked, he says, we’ll think of more reasons to argue.. ….lolz!!!

Have a good weekend peeps!!


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Thursday, April 3, 2008

I was cleaning out my hard drive today making space for the massive downloads I am anticipating when I saw this photo. This was taken of me during a night out on one Secretary Week nite. There was a show call Hunk-A-Mania at one of the local clubs and these guys were doing a “tame” stripped performance. Suffice to say, it was a night I would NEVER forget…;) Anyway, after the show we were given an opportunity to take pictures with the guys and so this was it.. I actually wanted to sit on the lap of the guy on the right (aiyoo so cutey I tell you!!).. but the queue behind me was so long that no lap-swapping was allowed! Lolzz!

 Anyone drooling yet??

And sorry about the blurriness of my face.. the lighting was really terrible in there….;)



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Wednesday, April 2, 2008

I used to be so hot-tempered. I remembered being young and being so insolent towards to my parents. I was overly sensitive. I would sulk for days if I don’t get my way and I would even skip meals just to show how angry or upset I was over a situation. Banging bedroom doors was a normal entry in my journal.

It was not that I had an unhappy childhood. It was not because I had absentee parents. It was just because I was so hot-tempered and was not able to control my emotions. I remember wishing I was dead every time something did not go my way.

Yes I was a hot-tempered one..

As I grew older, I grew wiser and I matured to become a not so hot-tempered lady. Oh I was still one easily provoked. Fortunately for me my parents are patient people and basically although my temper was mildly beyond control, I was not self-destructive. I was basically a good girl. I studied hard, did well in exams and did not mix around with bad company.

As the years caught on, I began to change. My career demanded me to change. I was dealing with demanding bosses that really test my patience. I was dealing with people who don’t take “No” for an answer. I was dealing with unreasonable request and because of that learned how to be the “soft” one. I learned that fighting fire with fire is no solution. It would only aggravate the situation more. I learned how to mellow down.

Yes I was a hot-tempered one ….

….but no more.


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Tuesday, April 1, 2008

To show my appreciation to the Top Commenters of this blog, I will be giving out the Top Commenter Award on the 1st of each month to the 1st place commenter.

And the winner for LLP this March ’08 is….. Farah!

Thank you so much Farah for always supporting my blog and for always giving fun and witty comments.

I also want to thank the rest of the my top 10 commenters.

This blog won’t be the same without you guys..Muahssss!!!!


Posted by LadyJava On April 01, 2008 No comments READ FULL POST
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