Showing posts with label Thoughts. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Thoughts. Show all posts

Saturday, August 6, 2011

Receiving a gift is always nice but not many people remember to send a personal thank you for the gift. I know because I’m guilty of being one of those person. .. or how about giving a simple gift to the one you love simply to thank them of their love? Hmm.. guilty too.. lol!!

Anyway, here’s a site that has cute little “Thank You” gifts. It’s over at and the gifts there are simply adorable just like the one shown here.

Giving.. it’s always a pleasure right?


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Saturday, October 23, 2010

After such a lengthy discussion with A and finally deciding on the next course of action, it was pretty disheartening today to not get to do what I’ve strive to get done on this trip down to Singapore. Suffice to say, I wish things had gone as planned but perhaps there is a greater power at play. Perhaps this is HIS way to letting us know that this is not the path he planned for us?

I hate to overthink matters but sometimes it makes me wonder….



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Wednesday, August 18, 2010


Are you mine?

Mother Theresa once said, “Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within reach of every hand”. A love quote that is inspiring if you are looking for love, I’m sure.

Some people just have difficulty finding the right one. Some may attribute it to lack of time because they are always at work while some say the good ones are always taken. I, for one think that sometimes you just need a little effort and as Robert Mitchum said, “Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it”… And one of these ways could be to sign up to dating sites.

Out of five top dating websites reviewed by the people over at Consumer Rankings, has received the full five stars for it’s services. According to the Match dating site review, Match not only has more members than any online dating service, it also has a powerful search engine and it gives you up to 5 suggestions daily based on similar interest or background. Being cell-phone friendly, you can also search for your ideal date from wherever you are. What’s more it also guarantees that you meet that special someone in 6months!

Oh and remember, Tom Robbins said, “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love”. Something to ponder upon eh…

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Monday, July 19, 2010

What kind of a stupid moronic idiot has such a thinking? Seriously I may not be a parent but is it really necessary to have kids to be driven?

You may ask me where this is coming from. Well it stemmed from this idiotic person who had this conversation with Azwaj.

Azwaj : I think it would nice to have this kind of gathering once a year so that we can catch up with each other. You know accomplishments, achievement, sorrow and stuff. I heard now Z has even own a car so that is really something and B is a millionaire.. Wouldn’t it be great to share in each other glory so that we may all be driven to do better with our lives?

Idiot: Well A, if you have kids, you’ll be driven.

Azwaj : huh?

End of conversation.

When Azwaj related the conversation to me I went ballistic. I asked him how the conversation ended and he said he just let the comment slide coz this idiot is really a moron and any arguments he had to explain his statement would only make make him more moronic, if that is at all possible.

Well honestly I am sick and tired from people who thinks they are wiser and smarter just because they have kids.

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Wednesday, July 7, 2010

So many things to worry about in life. Sometimes what I worry about might be totally petty to others. Do I care? Of course not. What is important to you might not be that important to me either. So let’s agree to disagree because that’s what make each of us interesting individuals with different thoughts, ideas and opinions. I believe if God wants us to be the same HE would have made us the same. HE loves variety and colors and thus he makes us as such – A variety of people to color his world.

So… you worry about your thick hair and I’ll worry about my thinning one. You worry about those eyes you call too big and I’ll worry about my dark circles under eyes. ..or.. we can all stop worrying and be happy with what we have.. Can we at least agree on that one?


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Friday, July 2, 2010

Have you ever spoken and immediately regretted it sometimes?. Have you ever wished you had thought about what you were going to say before the words just get uttered out? Have you sometimes wished you could just snapped your fingers and wished it was five seconds ago?

Sometimes we say things without ever thinking how the other party might feel. Sometimes we feel we have every right to say what’s on our mind. To heck with what other people feel. To heck with the repercussions. But what happens when the same happens to you? What if another person did the same to you? Would you bitch about being hurt or are you one of those people that don’t care? Are you one that just shrugged your shoulder and say “hey, it’s not personal”

Me? To be honest about it, I always tend to put a front that I don’t care when in fact I do. It’s never “not personal”. It’s always personal. I think you are just in denial if you think otherwise, as a self-defense mechanism. But what do I do when such things happens. I reflect upon the situation, try to analyze it and see if I could have done it differently and MOVE ON. Either take action or just accept that sometimes it’s just too late. The words are spoken and it’s out there. Lingering, wandering around, for someone to take it or ignore it.

Someone told me, if you want to be seen, stand up, if you want to be heard, speak up and if you want to be appreciated, SHUT UP! lolz

And that is one good advice!


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Friday, May 28, 2010

I had my fair share of high heels, short skirts, high slits maxi and skimpy clothing in my younger days and I dare say I was very confident when wearing them. I didn’t wobble when I walked, I didn’t desperately grab my slits when they get blown by the wind  and I didn’t shy away when my skirt ride up my thighs when I sat. I also didn’t desperately cover my boobs when a little cleavage was showing as my straps fell away from my shoulders.

So I got very amused the other day when I saw a stylishly dressed lady exiting a taxi desperately holding on to her slit so that it didn’t part and walking away looking like she was in pain as she wobbled in her stiletto. Made me think she better include “falling due to walking in high heels” as part of her risk in her life insurance quote.

I always believe you should wear anything you have on with confidence and with that confidence, you could look stylish in tshirt and shorts. Without confidence, even a Versace would look drappy on you!



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Sunday, May 2, 2010

Dear Diary…

Sometimes life takes you on a journey on that you never thought you’ll be in.

When you’re young, all you think about is studying to fulfill whatever ambition you have. Then you start on your career. While living your life, you meet the love of your life. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t. When it does works out, you marry and hope to start a family. You wait, hope and pray but nothing happens.

You resign to the fact that it will never happened especially when you reach 40. Yeah, a lot of people start their family at 40’s but imagine this, when you’re 50, your kid is only 10, would you still still have the energy to run around with them? With people dropping dead at such a young age, what if you die when your kids are still young. Would you trust the child that you’ve been dreaming of to another? Can your significant other bear it alone at an age where he should be retiring?

I’ve been thinking alot about the future since mama’s passing. Abah has 5 children and still he says, he has now nothing to look forward to. He said, now that mama is gone, there is no life, no future. All he does is eat, shit, work and sleep. What more is there?

What about me? What is I outlive Azwaj and my mother? What would I do? I have assets. What do I do with them? Would I feel the same way Abah is feeling right now?

It’s morbid thoughts, I know.. but I can’t help but wonder.. what happens after……??


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Tuesday, February 16, 2010

In life, we have to make sure there is a balance. A balance between your relationship with GOD and your relationship with people. What I noticed sometimes is that so-called religious people seems to think that they are one up then anyone else and that since they have a special place next to the GOD, they can treat people like like sh*t.

They forgot that God is ever merciful but people aren’t. They forget that if you beg for forgiveness from God and really repent, chances are you will get forgiveness BUT that might not be the case with people and that even if you cry tears of blood, a person might not forgive you.

And people matter. So when bad or good things happens to you, think of what you have done to other people. Perhaps it’s just karma 🙂


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Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Sometimes in life, you can’t just do what you want. Even though you feel like that is the only thing to do and the only thing that should be done. So many factors come into play. What if I do this and the results is not as I want it to be? What if I hurt someone in the process? What if it hurts other relationship in the process?

This is especially so when family members are involved as well. What if what I do sour others good relationship with each other. I mean just because that relationship has gone sour for me, does it justify me souring those relationship for others as well? What if because of this one already sour relationship is analyzed in the open, and a confrontation happened and in the process good relationship between me and other members become not as good anymore? Can I take that?

Arghh!! Should I keep quiet and cry in silence? Should I pretend it does not matter though it does hurt so bad? Is this a test from God to show me that I’m not as strong as I put up to be?

PS: Oh well.. at least it made me forget abt those mortgage lenders for a while.

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Monday, May 19, 2008

Yesterday, I had some morbid thoughts going through my mind. What if on one my one trips back to Singapore, I got into an accident and die? Who would take care of my affairs in Singapore? Who would help my mom with all the pending things in Singapore like my loans and my credit card payments. Who would help her take care of my CPF account withdrawals?

I guess Azwaj would take care of all those when the time comes but even now he’s not showing any interest. My mom is illiterate and even if I were to tell her anything right now, she would probably say I’m talking rubbish.

I have started to compile all my paperwork last year. From shares certificate to loan documentation, from my central provident fund statements to my travel health insurance certificate, I have put them aside complete with the respective agents and login id and password. I hope it would help those going through my stuff when I’m gone.

I know these are morbid thoughts but I guess it has to be addressed and dealt with somehow. I just hope it’s enough….

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Saturday, May 10, 2008

Sometimes when you fall from grace, you tend to always ask people to give you a second chance. An opportunity to start anew, to turn over a new leaf. But do you practice the same thing? Do you do to others how you want others to do unto you? Or do you turn a the other way and refuse to be associated with “those” people anymore?

How would you treat someone who just got out of drug rehab for instance? Would you shun him or would you welcome him to society and help him out the best you can?

I believe everyone deserve a second chance. Everyone deserve to err and repent and still be accepted into society. After all today might be their turn, tomorrow, who knows? The tables might turned and it is us who needs the second chances.


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Tuesday, May 6, 2008

… and mean what you say!

Haven’t we heard those words thousands of times before and yet how many of us can honestly say it like it is? How many of us can really say what we mean when sometimes the right words are so difficult to find and to form. Sometimes the meaning of the words just get lost in the heat of an argument and emotions that are at an all time high making us form the words even without us thinking of the consequence.

Can we really say what we mean then? Can we really mean what we say? Personally to me, it’s doable although it is definitely easier said than done. Sometimes saying what what we mean may hurt others. Sometimes saying what we mean may break relationships.

Not everyone is born with the ability to communicate well. Not everyone is able to relay what they are feeling in words what is going on in their minds. Most express themselves through action and some believe this is better than just words. Though this is true in some aspects, I still believe the words “I Love You” for instance is best “Said” then expressed with any gifts or tokens which should be an extension of the verbal words instead.

Say what you mean and mean what you say. Doable? Thoughts anyone?


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Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Love conquers all. Or so they say. Love goes beyond all boundaries and for love you leave your family and friends. For love you sacrifice everything even your own life.How true is this sentiment? In today’s world, with self gratification being on the top of the list, is there place for love to survive.? I believe there is. I believe if love is strong, it can move mountains. If love is strong, it can move an ocean.

A true life event inspired this post. Not mine but of someone I know.

She comes from a rich family. She had everything she ever wanted. She’s the pampered one in the family simply because she is the only girl. Then she fell in love. She fell in love with someone whom her father did not approve. However, she continued seeing this guy as her mother still gave her approval although it was behind her father’s back.

Her boyfriend made it to a good working position and soon impressed her father and somehow they managed to get his blessing. All went fine until the boyfriend made one stupid mistake that ended his career and put his life in shambles. She remained loyal to him and kept the whole thing a secret from her family. Her father found out and demanded that she ended the relationship. She blatantly refused. Her father asked her to choose, her boyfriend or her family. She chose her love and left her family after being disowned.

Despite all the chaos and uncertainties, they got married. More problems followed because of financial matters. After three years, she swallowed her pride and called her father for assistance. Her father was pleased. He told her that she could have everything. A house, a car, even money with one condition. Leave him. Leave her husband. She cried and hanged up after saying no.

Such is love. Such is sacrifice. Would you have been strong enough? Would your love withstand all odds and remain steadfast?

I pray for her. I pray for all couples in love.

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Saturday, April 26, 2008

Sometimes overly sensitive people bugged me. Sometimes overly sensitive people irritates the hell out of me. Sometimes overly sensitive people irks me so much, I just want to give them one tight slap and say.. not everything is about you! 

People need to realize that I need to speak my mind and yes, gossip about other people too sometimes and if it somehow relates to you then it’s nothing personal. You are just there at the wrong time and place.

For example, if I say X is so pretty but so sad she got bad BO, and you happened to have bad BO too, please don’t take it personally, coz I’m not talking about you and for heavens sake, do something about it if you do have bad BO! And if I say, I really need to get a new handphone coz mine is zongint out on me, I’m not talking about YOUR phone that you are tying together with a rubber band, I’m talking about mine!

For heaven’s sake don’t make everything about YOU! Stop being overly sensitive will ya??!!!


Just being me…

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Wednesday, April 23, 2008

I’m sure many of us have faced this situation on least one occasion. Be it our choice or the other party, breaking up is never easy. At times, we are just afraid of being alone that we would rather stay in a disastrous relationship and suffer silently.

My first breakup was torture. I was no longer in love with the guy but he insisted that he still loved me and was committed to making the relationship work. I was miserable and I was making him miserable. We fought all the time and every conversation and discussion was an excuse for more arguments. I was already letting go and deep down I knew the relationship was doomed but he still refused to let go. He refused to acknowledge that I no longer loved him and that I was ready to move on without him in my life.

Finally I convinced him to let me go. I told him that I was merely a season for him. A season to experience, a season to learn and a season to love. Now that season is over, and a new season is dawning…for him and for me..

Breaking up is never easy but we finally said our goodbyes and moved on with our lives. I hope he learnt from what we have shared before and moved on to find a better love just like I did smile


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Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Past relationship shaped the way I am today. What I have gone through before, greater determine how present and future relationship are formed. 

For instance in a love relationship, I know that just because someone loves me is not enough to start one. The feelings must be mutual. Sometimes I get carried away with all the wooing that I “trick” myself into thinking that I love that person as well. It’s not fair to him and it is definitely stupid of me coz I know that relationship won’t last, as I need to give as much as I take and I won’t be able to give 100% of myself if I don’t love that person.

Past relationship also taught me that I can’t be with someone too possessive or too jealous. I am, by nature, a people person. I love people. I love my human interaction. I love events, parties, get-together and meeting new people. My significant other got to accept that…period.

Past relationship. What have you learned about yourself??


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Thursday, March 20, 2008

This might sounds like a strange question but I was watching a back episode of Bold and Beautiful today on the telly (hahehehe.. don’t sneer people, I happened to enjoy the show) and one of the character, Taylor, who was having problem getting pregnant with husband Nick decided to get impregnated with an anonymous donor’s eggs.

It so happened she was accidentally impregnated with Brooke’s eggs. Now Brooke happened to be Nick ex-wife (who is still in love with Nick and vice versa) and her sworn enemy. Anyway after the birth everyone later found out the truth and as expected Brooke developed this connection with the baby coz “I’m the biological mother”.

The episode that I was watching today happened to be the one where Taylor had prematurely gone into labour and the baby was in distress. It was all so chaotic and you can sense the danger that both Taylor and the baby was in.

Anyway.. I’m rambling..

In this scenario, my question is, what makes a mother? Is it the woman who carried the baby for nine months, going through the morning sickness, and the fight for life when delivering the bundle of joy? Or is it the woman who contributed the eggs? Which connection is stronger? Who has the bigger claim over motherhood in this case?

Does Brooke have a bigger say because she is the donor? Was Taylor just a vessel for the new life and have no right over it?

My take on this is that Taylor has all the right in the world to call herself the mother of the child. Simply because without her, there is no baby.. the eggs would not survive without the host and Taylor could have chosen anyone’s eggs to carry in her body. An egg would just be an egg and would remain to be an egg without the vessel in which it is carried to full term and thus to become a baby.

I’d be interested to see what you have to say..


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Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Azwaj can’t stand it when I leave him for too long to go back to Singapore, even if it is to visit my mom. Sometimes I have to “bargain” just so I get a longer stay. However, I must admit I like that fact that he would miss me so much that even one week seems like a long time for him.

There are, however, a few of his friends that actually think that he enjoys the time when I do go back to SG. They would comment things like “oh so good, bachelor again. can enjoy!”.. you know silly remarks like that. And I know for a fact that these are the same batch of guys who really enjoy it when their wives “balik kampong” or go back to their hometown. It’s like they are now free to do what they want and when they want it.

I just don’t understand it. To me, it’s kinda sad that you actually prefer to NOT be with your spouse. That you actually prefer to spend time with your friends than your family. I mean I understand that we need alone time to do the stuff that you like and enjoy but to actually look forward for your spouse to leave for somewhere? That’s just sad!

Azwaj says it probably because their wives are so controlling and demanding and would call all the time when they are not at home and so when his friends are left wife-less for a period of time, they actually enjoy the peace of mind.

Sometimes, I really don’t know what to think. All I do know is that you have to give your partner their space so that they appreciate you more I guess. For me, I’ll just keep on doing what I’ve been doing all the time and that is NOT to expect Azwaj to report his every movement to me and to give him my 100% trust that if he said he’s going to a particular location, then that is what he’ll do. I, myself, can’t stand it when wives or girlfriend keep calling their partner even in meetings..!

To each it’s own, I always say.. so be it 🙂


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